Ever wondered how Thai women are able to shoot ping-pong balls and blow smoke rings from their vaginas? It’s thanks to exceptionally toned PC muscles, which helps prevent incontinence and makes sex more sensational. There are lots of pelvic toning devices on the market and most are made from plastic, which doesn't feel particularly sensual to use. The sexiest I've found are made from Jade, a healing stone that has a long history of use in Taoist practice.
What is a Love Egg?
Love eggs are a practical tool to help you locate and strengthen your PC muscle – the stretchy hammock of muscle that holds your reproductive organs in place. As we age and after childbirth this gradually weakens and needs regular exercise to prevent conditions such as incontinence. Jade has been long revered as a 'stone of heaven' that helps generate sexual energy and aids healing. The stones are small and feel sensual to touch so make a sexy gift for a girlfriend or partner.
Origins of the Love Egg
Love eggs were used by queens and concubines in the Royal Palace to promote health and longevity, and to enhance sexual prowess. The practice has been brought to the West by the Universal Healing Tao, a healing system developed by Mantak Chia and his wife Maneween. ‘The Jade egg practice forms part of the women’s practices in the Tao,' explains Uta Demontis, Tao practitioner and sex & relationship coach who teaches classes on how to use a love egg. 'It serves as a tool to awaken sexual energy, to maintain and create healthy sexual organs, and to enhance your love life with yourself and with your partner'.
Chia recommends combining the Tao basic healing practices with the egg exercises. These are not as complicated as they sound and explained in his book 'Cultivating Female Sexual Energy':
- Microcosmic Orbit
- Healing Sounds
- Inner Smile
- Iron Shirt Chi Kung
- Ovarian Breathing
- Breast Massage
This will get you into the right mindset so that you are open to receiving the egg and the sexual pleasure and inner strength it will bring.
How to Use a Love Egg
I bought my egg from Uta Demontis. It came with a cute pouch; the idea being that you can wear it around your neck if you don’t have much time to practice. It has a drilled hole through the middle so you can tie it with floss or string for removal. It makes a good worry stone and feels much nicer to use than my plastic Gyneflex! Boil it for ten minutes before use to sterilize it and remove the wax coating. Each egg comes with an instruction manual detailing the exercises.
Self-massage
Uta suggests preparing a healing space for regular practice. The practice is heart-centred so flowers, candles, incense - whatever relaxes and inspires you. Rub your hands vigorously and massage all over the body – breasts, thighs, belly, pubic mound, groin and perineum. This will reduce tension and stimulate natural lubrication so the egg is easier to insert. Use some lubricant if you are breastfeeding, taking the pill or menopausal.
Basic Egg Exercises
There are lots of exercises in Chia's book including advanced vaginal ‘weight-lifting’, which sounds a bit hardcore! As a beginner, my goal was to get used to the sensation of the egg and practice moving it up and down. I've heard that leaving it in all night can lead to erotic, vivid dreams so that will be a fun experiment. The egg is easy to insert but challenging to move as it's quite small so that's my goal for this week - five minutes a day to increase vaginal sensitivity. I visualised my body doing the exercises.
Here’s are some basic exercises from the Universal Healing Tao:
'Sipping' the Egg
- Gently place the egg in the inside of the inner labia and move it in slow circles until you feel it rest at a comfortable 'angle' (keep smiling and take slow, deep belly breaths).
- Sipping: Gently feel the vagina sip or suck the egg upon the inhale, and feel the vagina 'yawn' or open on the exhale. Visualise it when you first start using the egg.
- Sipping/rocking: Add a gentle pelvic rock with your tailbone towards the ceiling on the inhale and press into the floor on the exhale.
- Stronger sips - a big squeeze on the inhale and push down/out on the exhale. You can use your hand to push the egg inside the vagina.
Vary the exercises - try them standing, seated and lying down to find out what feels most comfortable. Standing is the most challenging, as your vagina will need to maintain a stronger grip to keep the egg in place. Over time, the exercises will increase your strength, heighten sensitivity and improve sexual pleasure and orgasms. Why not make it a private ritual and see if your partner notices the difference after a few weeks' practice? The exercises are great post-childbirth and at any time of life to help you reconnect to your sensual self.
Hot Tips From Mantak Chia
- Rest between exercises – relaxing the muscles is just as important as strengthening them.
- Keep smiling to yourself – the ‘inner smile’ is an important part of this exercise and helps to keep the sexual energy in the body so you can cultivate more.
- Wear your egg around the house or out and about if you don’t have much time to practice. Aim for five minutes practice a day rather than an hour once a week to help you build sexual energy.
- Once you’re comfortable with the sensation try sleeping with the egg inside you. This can promote vivid, erotic dreams.
I’ve found this to be an empowering, rejuvenating practice that makes me feel good about my body. There’s something lovely about using crystals for healing – Jade in particular – rather than plastic devices. I see it as a way of boosting my general creativity and positivity and it has inspired me to set up a healing circle with women to share the practice.
Sources
Universal Healing Tao: ‘Jade Egg Exercises: A mini, practical guide for the gentle awakening of female sexual energy.’
Uta Demontis is holding a Jade Egg Salon at Coco de Mer, London, October 20th. See her website Manawa for tips on sex & relationships and Taoist sexual healing.
Disclaimer: Jade love eggs are not suitable for use if you have a coil/IUD. Seek medical advice if you have any health issues or concerns about use.
Nicci Talbot - Nicci Talbot is a journalist and author specialising in sex, health & wellbeing. She edits Rude Magazine, an online resource for better ...
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